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Chapter 16: Family Ties

  Chaapter 16:  Family  Ties

By this time my borther had married and had a two year old daughter.  They lived in Bowling Green, and my brother worked in the audio visual department of the hospital.  I found a position as director of religious education at St. Mary’s in Clyde, a small town near Genoa. The pastor there had been pastor in Genoa and so knew my family well.  I had no sooner got settled in at St. Mary’s when one night Dad called to say that Joe had been killed.  My brother had taken an extra job as photographer at the Indianapolis  races. He was standing on a platform filming, when he was hit in the back of the neck by a motor from a car which had wrecked and split apart.  He was dead upon reaching the hospital.  The pastor of St. Mary’s drove home with me that night.  Mom and Dad said that a van drove into the driveway and that it was annonced to them of his  freak accident and subsequent death.  I immediately thought of my dream of the van and the “sun” falling as the family mourned the loss. This was a terrible blow to our family, expecially for Mom in her illness. But we pooled our strength and celebrated Joe’s life and the gift he had been to each of us.

In April of that year, Mom was hospitalized again.  It did not look good and I decided i was needed at home to help Dad.  I finished the year at St. Mary’s and then found a position teaching grade seven at a near by Catholic school. I did not think that a year was much time to make a difference in a parish, but a note from two of the parish leaders convinced me that my presence had made a difference.  My provincial team called to say they would mission me to the new position.  The leave of absence was over. 

Much of the summer was spent entertaining my two year old niece.  She would call her father on her toy phone.  She seemed to think that heaven was a place that she and I had been to before. She said to me, “Remember we walked down the road, turned the corner and there was heven”.  I am always sad that I did not question her more about that statement becuse today she can not recall it. 

The sister who was pastoral minister at Genoa became good friends with me and heled me immensely by her strong support. She has always been very affirming and of couse she urged me to write this autobiograhy.  Mom was in a coima three times during her stay at the hospital.  The last time, she came out of the coma to the call of my voice.  As she wanted to come home, we arranged for oxygen at the house.  In August, Mom died one night while I held her up and Dad went to get medicine..  She looked at the picture of the Sacred Heart of Jesus on her bedroom wall and seemed to slip right into it. I still have the picutre.  Now it is in my bedroom and I too hope to look at it,  as I draw my last breath. 

I had actually only taught a half year in the seventh grade after Mom’s death.  My provincial had suggested that I resign due to it being a stressful situation.  I did some work as a house mother in a home for emotionally disturbed children for about two months.  I kept getting sore throats each tine I would go for the long overnight work hours. Finally I began to sub in the public school whcih I found to my liking.  I recieved one six week subbing position. At the end of  the year, I was offered a permanent position. I needed to make a decisiion.  

In the midst of all the pain and confusiion, before she died, Mom had told Dad that he was to see that I got to go on a trip for my Silver Jubilee.  The Holy Land was my choice, a place I had desired to go ever since my scripture courses.  So I was off to the Holy Land.  I went with a pilgrimage group,  since Dad did not want to go.  The trip was a wonderful experience.  In early morning, I  would walk around the hotel  where you could see scenes of shepherds with their sheep on the neighboring hills. I was very fond of the Good Shepherd theme and grateful for all the dark valleys he had seen me through. Golgatha too seemed to promise resurrection for me. I decided I needed to return to religious education.

Dad was in great grief.  He wanted me to continue to do my ministry, so I decided that I would look for a position near by so I could look in on him weekly.  That position turned out to be St. Rose in Perrysburg. I would be able to live with the Ureslines who worked in the  school.  While there, I worked with the Weds Group and joined the guitar group.  I also took a course at Bowling Green on Teilhard de Chardin in whomn I had been inteerested for many years. I consider hin a spiritual mentor. 

I was going home weekly to help Dad with laundry and house and to put some cooked meals in the freezer.,  In his great grief, the Knights of Columbus introduced him to a widow who he thought reminded him of Mom. I didn’t think it was a goood idea, but didn’t think it was my place to hinder him. So when they decided to marry, I  knew it was time for me to return to northern Ohio closer to  my community. 

Even though the grief was enormous, I was given a great gift.  I had a series of dreams about my mnother. In the dreams, I knew she had jpassed over and was visiting me from heaven. She was leading me by her presence in my dreams. I religiously began to write my dreams down and decided to choose a yearly symbol for my dreanm journal.  The symbol I chose for 1982 was the rainbow.  It seemed to hold a promise for me.  I had a little pocket calendar which had a rainbow on the cover. Then the sisters with  whom I lived confirmed my choice with their beautful card having a rainbow on the cover.  This was the beginning of my life filled with synchronicities or it is when I became aware of all these messages from the universe.  On the card, one sister wrote: “She is like a tree planted near running water.  It yields its fruits in due season; whatever she does prospers.” (Psalm 1)

Thus it was that I began my beautiful Rainbow Path of illumination and enlightenment.  Life wouldnot be free of difficulties, but I knew I had completed a very difficult portion of my life and I felt that I had completed it very well.

Wedding Digital Photography – How to Do the Best Job Possible

So you’ve been asked to take the photos at your friend’s wedding. You’ve tried to persuade them to hire a professional, but they are happy with you. Don’t panic, they asked you because they like your style. Wedding digital photography is no different from other photography, but there a few things you need to consider when planning for the big day.

Turn off the sound on camera – there is nothing worse than the sound of electronic beeping during a solemn moment.

Take more photos. A perfect moment will only happen once so don’t stint on the number of photos you take, this is one occasion when less is definitely not more. And don’t automatically discard shot you don’t think is good enough. Judicial cropping or editing may capture a moment you didn’t expect. The blurred shot of the flower girl – maybe there is an artistic photo here. Stand back and objectively (or perhaps subjectively) evaluate each shot for its own merits.

Be prepared! Make sure you have spare batteries and multiple memory cards. Know the wedding venues and times. Check out places where you will be able to stand during the ceremony. Think about the shots the bride and groom will want of their big occasion and how you can move between them during the proceedings. The same applies to the reception venue. It is important to know where the speeches will be given and where the dancing will take place. When checking for locations for posed shots think about the background and places you can get good group shots of the entire wedding party.

Be comfortable with the operation of your camera. A wedding is a busy event and at times a quite stressful one. There will be little opportunity to repose or reshoot if you hesitate with a shot. One option to reduce stress on you the photographer is to have an assistant. This could be someone nominated from the happy couple or someone you organise yourself. This person can spend time rustling people into groups, setting up shots and generally keeping things moving. This will leave you free to concentrate on the wonderful and flexible shots that come from wedding digital photography.

Think about using the continuous shooting mode that your digital camera has. This will allow you to capture a second shot after the main shot has been taken. Sometimes you can just guarantee everyone will have their eyes open and be smiling one second after the shot is taken – don’t miss that opportunity.

Weddings are a celebration. Make sure you cover off the tips above and your contribution to the day will be priceless.

Vince Terry is a freelance photographer and writer. Vince’s work covers wedding photography, modeling, event and commercials. Vince also sells photos on the Internet. Wedding digital photography is one of many articles he has written on digital photography. If you want more tips and techniques on digital photography and learn how you can earn money from your photos you can visit his site at http://earnfromyourphotos.com.

Few Tips To Make A Hen Party Fun

Truly speaking, hen night party is the sole responsibility of bridesmaid. Today, the last night of celebrating girl’s freedom often last for a weekend or longer than that. It is important for bridesmaid to make sure that the bride remembers this girly night for a long time. Some of the most popular activities are pampering session at a spa or line dancing.

Here are few tips that would help in making hen celebrations a success and memorable one.

Perfect Planning:

· Make sure that everything is well – organised. If you are planning celebrations abroad, for instance, ensure that everyone has their tickets and passports before leaving for the airport. This saves you from the last minute problems.

· Take your own time so that you can come up with a new thoughtful idea to surprise the bride. This could be anything from a decorated photo album consisting her photographs to guest by book by her close friends and associates.

· Think about the place where you want to organize this party. Make sure everyone invited to the party finds it easy to reach the venue or if possible select a meeting point from where you all can proceed to the party spot.

· One of the most important things is to make sure you do not organize hen celebrations a night prior to the wedding.

· You can also take along with you hen party t-shirts and customized shot glasses.

· If you are planning to invite mothers and long lost friends, select a venue that is comfortable for everybody. You can also divide the party into two stages – lunch or dinner for everyone and party for the friends later in the evening.

· When planning a party like this, select a weekend at least a fortnight before the wedding and if possible, combine it with a stag party.

· Over the past few years, themes for hen celebrations are gaining popularity among the bridesmaid and brides. So, as a bridesmaid you decide upon her favourite theme to add fun and pleasure to the entire party. Make sure you arrange the costumes depending upon the theme.

Of late, many event management companies have come up and you can take their assistance while organizing a party celebrating girl’s single hood. So, keep the aforementioned tips in mind while organizing hen celebrations.

Party Decoration Strategies To get a White Themed Party

Labor Day is just a week away and generally this holiday weekend signifies the conclude of summer months along with the conclude of wearing white colored. Therefore, why not go out with a bang that has a white colored theme social gathering? Here are some get together ornament tips which includes some finger food items ideas for any bright white social gathering idea.

Very first, set the tone for the white subject occasion with an invitation that particularly states what the get together is all about. Last summer time I attended a white colored celebration topic special affair and on the invitation it particularly stated which you had to put on white colored to gain entry into the occasion. Believe me, when it can be mandatory which you put on white and also you never, it’s apparent!

Future, consider social gathering decoration tips. Some fast and uncomplicated flower arrangements making use of all vibrant flowers are a have to at the same time. Roses, hydrangeas, orchids, mums, daisies are all readily obtainable flowers that you can use for these arrangements.

Submerge a very white Cymbidium orchid in a small glass container and perhaps add an accent colour with all the glass beads. Or, do a reverse shade flower arrangement for your bright white idea social gathering by employing vibrant rocks, a clear glass container and putting in a green, yellow or pink Cymbidium orchid.

Other social gathering decoration concepts include vibrant votive candles, pillar candles of different heights and shapes at the same time as white colored taper candles will not just add a good ambiance for your function but also stay within your subject. Should you can’t lease bright white furniture or never have it commonly available, then choose up some massive vibrant pillows or bean bag chairs and throw those on the floor to help accent your white get together idea. Naturally to your food, rent or buy white linens, white china or (plastic will work at the same time) and do not forget a white colored dance flooring.

Now listed below are some quick and simple finger foods strategies to get a vibrant subject social gathering. These selections can effortlessly be observed at your local marketplace when you do not have the time to prepare them prior for your event.

1. Choice of white European cheeses and sliced crostini

2. Garlic, plain and eggplant hummus accompanied by sliced pita bread

3. Artichoke heart bruschetta offered on an endive leaf

4. Brie and pear quesadilla

5. Skewers with tortellini with parmesan dipping sauce

Of course, finger food suggestions for dessert can incorporate the following:

. Very white chocolate fondue or heated marshmallow sauce for dipping fruit

. Vanilla cupcakes

. Frozen bananas rolled in coconut

And let’s not neglect your bar menu. Generate a white colored get together theme specialty drink list and never overlook to contain:

. A Bright white Russian

. Vanilla vodka about the rocks

I hope you are able to use a couple of of these very white occasion subject strategies along with the party decoration strategies talked about above for your conclude of summer season celebration over the Labor Day weekend. The finger food items suggestions mentioned are readily obtainable and not too costly and will enable preserve your very white concept party intact. Until following time, remember the Budget Bash mantra: make it uncomplicated, delicious, stylish, fun & reasonable to all!

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Wedding Photography Tips & Guide – ‘E’ Equals Editing

Editing and selecting the best shots

Even though editing would only take place at the end when you’ve got the shot’s, it’s important to start with the end in mind at the beginning, as you’ll see that editing can make all the difference, especially to get your photos looking professional. Its important to keep this in mind when getting the shots as when you know the possibility’s with editing the photos, you’ll look at the scene differently and not just as it appears in camera.

Ok, first thing is to get all the shots together from the day, create a folder in your system, maybe “wedding photos” probably good to do it in the “My photos” folder in windows, as this will make easier viewing later, in the folder create sub folders for each card you have and up load each card in to its own folder, if you have the option to change the file you may find it useful later to change the file name to an initial plus a 2 or 3 digit number. i.e., if you get a card from John Smith, copy the shots to the folder “John Smith” and re name the files as js001, js002, js003, then for Julie Jones card, name the folder to “Julie Jones” and the files to jj001, jj002 and so on with all the cards from the day. Now once Complete back the whole wedding photo folder up to disk immediately, and as disks are only pennies, make a couple of copies for safe keeping.

Now with all the photos backed up you can begin to edit them, I would first create a duplicate of the original “wedding photos” folder for editing, this can be done by right clicking on the folder and selecting copy, then paste, this will give you a copy of the folder with all the photos in. this is the folder to use for editing. Keep the original folder with the original photos in whilst you complete the editing in the copy folder.

When editing, look for shots of interest, shots that say something, or tell you something about the day, even with the use of editing in the camera you’ll still probably have kept some shots that are just no good, they could be:

· Either far too light or dark to retain any detail
· Totally out of focus
· Blurred
· Important detail on the shot to small to enlarge
· Of no interest or relevance
· Repetitive or duplicated

Don’t delete them just yet if they are:
· A bit light or a bit dark
· Have a colour cast (the shot looks yellow or blue or an odd colour)
· A touch out of focus
· The main point of interest is off center or leaning
· The whole shot is crooked

The main point of interest is small or distant on the shot:

There are objects in the foreground or background that are distracting.

Light & Dark shots.

Thanks to photo editing suits this isn’t always a problem, many have an “auto correct” option that will work well and save an otherwise lost shot. If you are a more advanced user, then use the levels. If you can fix the shot this way that’s great, if not then try and convert them to black and white or sepia, then adjust the brightness and contrast to get the best result, or better still use the levels. For very light shots, maybe try adding a “soft focus filter” to the shot, and converting to black and white to give a classic “High Key” shot.

For dark shots try to bring in the highlights and leave the rest of the shot dark, maybe add a “grain or noise filter” to make more moody.

These methods may really save an otherwise lost shot, it may even end up being a really great shot.

When it comes to the editing I believe its better to show you with a video rather than write about it. So I’ll be putting some basic editing videos up on the wedding-photo-guide.com site. I’ll use Photo Shop Elements 1, or another simple program readily available to download for free, simply to show just how affective simple basic edits can be, and that you don’t need any real skill or fancy editing suite to achieve great results. I’ll be putting up editing videos to show you the simple and basic techniques can be really effective.

Melbourne’s Best Bars – Berlin Bar – Review

Have your identification papers at the ready! 

Berlin Bar is one of those hidden treasures, waiting patiently to be found by the masses. Decadently fitted out, Berlin Bar exudes the creative style and prowess that set Melbourne’s great cocktail bars apart. And the best part is it’s really two bars in one! 

The Berlin Bar transports you right to into the heart of 1960’s Berlin; just follow the cobblestone alleyway up Corrs, slip through the red-oak door and up two flights of dimly lit stairs, past the burlesque bar on the landing. Here you will be greeted by a locked iron cast door. Press the buzzer and wait – a staff member will be with you shortly to verify your credentials and lead you in to the sophisticated West Berlin parlor, replete with white and brown leather upholstery. 

If thats not to your fancy then you might try sneaking over the border, through Checkpoint Charlie and in to an East Berlin bunker. 

Here you can sit by your very own piece of the Berlin wall, where ammunition crates and even a bathtub – you read that right – replace the need for regular tables. 

The bar is generously stocked with all the usuals as well as some very unusual imported drinks. There is a highly personalized cocktail menu on offer, with a host of unique concoctions and, at $ 20 each, you’d expect nothing less. Beers, wines and spirits are a touch on the expensive side, but its important to remember this bar provides table service and only admits a relatively small number of patrons at once.So at least you don’t need to wait in line for a drink. 

Although Berlin Bar has a wide appeal to many, its pricing tends to exclude the younger crowd. Most Berliners are mid-20’s or later with just a hint of pompous sophistication. 

As a final touch, suspended above the staircase entrance, a red-light sign reads “Ich bin ein Berliner,” President Kennedy’s infamous gaffe where he proclaimed himself to be a jam doughnut, rather than a citizen of Berlin. And who knows? With all the alcoholic goodies on offer here, you too, may be speaking in tongues by the night’s end. Bookings essential.

By Joel Kennedy for Melbourne Bars and Function Rooms

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The Love Predator

Every living thing predates, which simply means life eats to stay alive, both materially and, for humans, emotionally. Though some say all life feels.

We have learned only very recently in human history that we are the abusive predator, who predates not just for food, but also for everything in sight, making us the most greedy species. This trait is not entirely villainous. It comes from our favorite talent-making choices-a powerful opportunity we haven’t yet learned very well how to manage.

Our greatest awareness of excessive predation is our abuse of the environment and the resultant extinction of animal species. Many of us feel profoundly worried and ashamed as a result of this new comprehension. Some of us even feel terrified that we’ve already done irreparable damage-global warming-that may eventually extinct our species.

And yet, in spite of learning such hard lessons, curiously we are the least aware of our most heinous form of abuse as a predator-the misuse and abuse of each other. Way out in front, the most dominant event in human history, of all peoples and cultures, and the most prevalent form of our behavior toward each other has been the mass murder of as many people as possible at any given time and technology. In spite of our increasing awareness of such foibles, we continue to act in the arena of violence toward each other as if it is both necessary and inevitable, requiring massive armies, defensive strategies, hugely intimidating military technology and the deadly sting of secrets and secret opps. All of which is perpetually in danger, as it always has been, of becoming a self-fulfilling prophecy.

But all of this, no matter how horrendous, is only the tip of the iceberg of human abuse of the procuring act of predation-eating to survive. In dozens of more subtle ways we predate each other emotionally and financially. We have, for instance, made profit the most sought-after aspect of human exchange, by our unfortunate belief in ownership. This assumed to be virtuous necessity is the right of the first procurer to discover a new element or opportunity, to extract tolls from anyone thereafter needing to use it. By virtue of their first-use we’ve granted them title to what for eons included the ownership of other humans. The necessary aspects of ownership can easily be handled in other ways, like a lifetime lease.

To justify this I-can-do-with-it-what-I-want abuse we pretend the finder invented what humans can only discover. Nature has already done all the necessary inventing. All technology, good medicine and creative effort is simply an imitation, at times cleverly rearranged and represented, of nature’s ways, to the extent that we know them. In other words, we all plagiarize nature. It’s the only option available.

With all this on our conscience, there’s still one more aspect of our excessive predation, which might ultimately be our most damaging one. It’s by far the hardest form for us to acknowledge, that we predate each other within the context of love-which unwittingly includes our children. We do so, not knowingly, nor because we are bad people, but because we have no other way of getting what we all need all our lives-to be loved, supported, encouraged and admired as part of giving our lives support and significance.
Though we pretend otherwise, we have not yet effectively arranged for that to take place within society in general. Indeed individuality-what is special within love-is regarded generally with great mistrust as unloving selfishness, kept under wraps by the primal command, above all else, to serve others. When for individuals good comes in a great diversity of forms. And all chicanery hides behind various notions of the general welfare, with the usual assertion, “it’s for your own good”.

Family is still the only place that, at least to a significant extent, we’re treated in that right manner-as special. As we already know, human nature will never thrive-or learn-in any other environment. A hundred years of psychotherapy has taught us that much, at least with respect to children and animals. We have yet to fully realize that adult humans are no different.

But most important, we have still to acknowledge the simple, but painful truth that, in seeking what they need within the same social context, adults will always win a competition with their children, no matter how hard they try to avoid doing it. We didn’t used to care. But nowadays we all try; yet it can’t be done. Needs don’t wait for permission. They automatically demand, and children, equally automatically, step aside-in ways seen by no one at the time.

Many, if not most readers will cry out how wrong this assertion must be! Yet only one piece of evidence is necessary to verify its truthfulness. It’s something we’ve learned only within the last 100 years, that family produces as much harm as good. Family itself, in its traditional form as arbiter and policeman of culture’s habits and biases, is outmoded, in need of significant transformation-an unthinkable thought because it seems so disloyal to the font of our comfort. We hate to think about the big picture of what families have become: a mixed bag. Indeed, at times with genetic help, all psychic dysfunctional symptoms were learned, or genetic vulnerabilities exacerbated and made much worse, within families of origin. From one generation to another we pass along our prejudices and foibles as well as our virtues.

Human prosperity has enabled us to perceive our family origins as the mixed bag they really are, mostly by providing an alternative place of intimate resting and exchange-the workplace, now available, at least in better financial times, to most people. Without another experience-option, independent of our origins, we couldn’t have finally seen the shortcomings of that ancient font of security and wisdom-family, clan and culture, which is at the core of most religions, in the simplest words, ancestor worship. Thus, until very recently in human history, we’ve been unable to look askance at the hand the feeds us.

Perhaps it’s time to consider whether parenting needs to become more professional, in the sense of handling adult and child needs in different contexts. Children used to be reproduced in large numbers to add to the labor force of the family’s livelihood. When large families seriously dilute what one child receives. Siblings, who in big families act as additional caretakers, are very dysfunctional parents; they’re only kids, can’t very easily handle the enormous responsibility of another’s life, and have their own life and its needs to attend.

Nowadays we realize that, if done primarily and fully to the benefit of the child, it takes more than the one or two adults to do the job-particularly if adults are to have ample time to serve the continued evolution of their own lives, hopes and dreams. Over time we’ve added teachers, babysitters, live-in caretakers, etc., which help, but none of which adequately accomplish what the child, or the parents need-very special personal care that integrates all the pieces together. Children don’t do that very well unattended. We’ve added pieces to the child’s life, but children don’t learn in pieces. Only adults can do that.

So what is the primary problem with families, as they are currently structured? What aspect of family damages individual growth and development the most? The answer verifies the innocence to which we can all lay claim. There is no fundamental villainy here. The problem is that family requires adults and children to compete for their need-gratification at the same font. Though we are strongly encouraged to think otherwise, adults need just as much benefit from family as children do-yet they need, in some ways, very different things. What’s more adults need things they can’t get anywhere else, including the workplace, though it’s a useful alternative. Very good parents try and circumvent this inevitable competition by putting their needs aside, when truth is it can’t be done. Needs will find their way out of any carefully constructed love-fortress.

No villain created this problem. We simply haven’t evolved nearly as far as we think we have. We’re still trying to get-it-right the first time, when we don’t yet know what that really means. Though it’s very difficult, even terrifying for some, to look upon ourselves in such tentative, seemingly critical ways. Instead we usually think and operate as if we already know what it means to be human, institutionalizing one mistake after another-and then taking eons to escape our own carefully constructed bad habits-like tyranny.

As an example, that particular perfidy is usually viewed as an oppressive intrusion. When it is most likely that no one imposed it upon us. We cried out for it when first we occupied this planet in tribal, social sedentary ways, terrified of a life that seemed filled with happenstance and the unfathomable, what easily became chaotic and out of control. We demanded the presence of a human god who could mollify and influence the cruel heavenly Gods who dominated and tormented our lives by, for instance, bringing famine or flood. It’s taken us thousands of years to get over this bad habit of wanting Big People to take care of what frightens us-and we still haven’t finished. We continue to elevate some people to a position of superiority, like the rich and famous, and then envy and adore them, the remnants of tyranny, what we now call inequality.

To consider revising the ways family works, in order to make it a more effective provider of what we all need, is part of a bigger picture: to learn to see ourselves as an evolving species, instead of an already-arrived-in-wisdom one. It’s a more frightening, contradictory course to take. But it’s also a more powerful one, to perceive all things from as many perspectives as possible … and never stop doing it. That effort produces a form of balance that is more evolved than balance concepts available in Eastern Oriental philosophy, which resolve negative experience and emotion by learning to live entirely in the positive. When negative and positive elements always coexist simultaneously, the negative to educate us, and the positive to give us rest, reassurance and encouragement.

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Wedding Planning in a Recession – Big Day, Smaller Budget

In these belt tightening times should you have to down-size your dream wedding? If you are going to be a little cost conscious where should you start? For many couples, and in particular, brides-to be, years may have been spent dreaming about their Big Day. Now the big question has been asked and accepted, and you may wondering whether you should be tightening those bridal purse strings. However, you can still have your dream wedding without going totally overboard with your finances. Try some of these less obvious budgetary constraints:

Engagement rings. No-one wants to look at their engagement ring and be constantly reminded of that economic down turn. Do you or your fiancee have any inherited jewels that you could utilize? Your Great Aunt Ruby’s diamond ring may look a bit tired as it is, but pop the diamond in a new setting, and hey presto! Custom jewelers can create masterpieces for you out of your family stone. Well known jewelers such as Verragio and Tacori provide semi-mount engagement rings, so you can select a setting you absolutely love, and then have your own diamond set. This can be a very cost effective approach to having your dream engagement ring.

Wedding rings. If you love the look of platinum wedding rings, but would prefer a less expensive metal, then perhaps palladium wedding rings could be right for you. Palladium is from the same metal family as platinum, and like platinum it is naturally shiny and hypoallergenic. While palladium wedding rings will be a little more expensive than white gold, they will be substantially less costly than platinum. Best of all, palladium never needs to be rhodium plated to maintain the luster.

Unusual venues. You may be able to find a more cost effective wedding location than a traditional reception venue. Do you know anyone who has a fabulous cottage in the country, or by a beach or lake? Take the time to check the costs of various catering companies. You will be astounded at the price differences.

Limit the cast of thousands. Do you really need to invite your third cousin who you haven’t ever seen? Or your father’s bank manager? Stick to close family and friends. Striking a few people off the invite list will quickly pay for other costs such as flowers, cake, and the photographer. Explain to anyone who is miffed that you felt awkward displaying conspicuous consumption in these times.

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Rent Photo Booth Tips and Information

Renting a photo booth is the growing hot trend in weddings, party planning and more. Everyone loves a photo booth, they’re easy to hop in take a few silly shots and instantly have the pictures printed as keepsakes. When you rent a photo booth, you are giving your guests that added bonus to remember your event and you are also getting a unique way to capture moments you may otherwise miss. Here’s all the information you need to know to rent photo booth.

What can you use a photo booth for? Surprisingly, a lot. Weddings are an obvious choice, but have you ever considered renting a photo booth for you next corporate event or trade show. This will add that extra touch for your clients or make your booth the go-to booth at trade shows. You can also rent a photo booth for birthday parties including sweet sixteen parties, Bar and Bat Mitzvahs, anniversary parties, holiday parties, family reunions and more. If you work at a school, consider all the possibilities. Try renting a photo booth for a prom, homecoming or a Valentine’s Day dance. They also tend to be big hits for class reunions and graduation celebrations.

What exactly is a photo booth? Basically they are small and take up minimum space. The traditional variety is simple structures with curtains, lights and of course the camera. More modern versions have a solid shell with various backgrounds you can choose from when you rent photo booth. Some even allow the guests to choose black and white photos, as well as decide when they are ready to snap the picture. Additionally, some allow the renters to decorate the exterior of the booth in their own design to match the theme of their specific party. There are many photo booth rental companies on the market today. You should look at several to decide what type you want and what will suit your needs.

When looking for a photo both rental you want to be sure to gather some important information before you make a decision. Of course cost is a big issue and if you rent one in your area, the cost may be less than having a photo booth brought to you from far away. There also may be a minimum number of hours you must rent the booth, so check that it matches your needs as you don’t want to pay for it longer than you need it.

You should also see what comes with your photo booth rental. Most companies send a worker with the booth for the entire rental period. This is important because you don’t want to have to deal with set up, tear down and troubleshooting at your event. A worker will handle everything associated with your photo booth rental. Additionally check out how many pictures your guests can print, as this will determine how long they are in the booth. Also check out how many total pictures you can print at your event. Your best bet is to get unlimited pictures for the duration of your event. Typically a photo booth rental comes with an online album of all the pictures taken at your event. Make sure this is included because guests love to go online and look at every picture. Finally, some companies offer to print double strips of your guests’ pictures, one strip for them to keep and one strip for them to give to you. Some companies even give you a scrapbook to put all the copies of your pictures into.R

Take advantage of this growing trend and rent photo booth for your next event. Not only will your guests love it, but you will benefit too!

Sandy Winslow is a writer of many subjects including event planning. All the information you need to rent photo booth and get the best deal.